Perfectionism

Many, many people suffer from perfectionist ideas. First, there is no such thing as perfection. It does not exist in the world, or if it does exist, then everything is perfectly as it is at the present moment. Belief is perfectionism and addiction to perfectionist thinking is common core problem in a lot of psychological disorders, including social phobia, general anxiety disorder, anorexia nervosa, obsessive-compulsive disorder (who all get nervous trying to make things perfect) and depression (who get depressed because they couldn’t get that perfect thing or become that perfect person). And even if a client does not have these disorders, perfectionist thinking often only brings frustration and disappointment, and eventually loneliness and resentment. The person constantly feels frustrated because he cannot get that “perfect” thing. (Ha, it doesn’t even exist.) or feels disappointed because after he gets that “perfect” thing, he finds out that it is not perfect at all. (It never was.) So, perfectionist person has a lot of uncomfortable behaviors. One they are always trying to control people and situations. When then can’t (which is often), they feel frustrated or disappointed and then they complain and nag. They may start looking elsewhere for that perfection. In English we say, “the grass is always greener on the other side.” Or, some perfectionists just give up. They don’t do anything. They become underachievers. Usually these people with little self-confidence and low self-esteem think they would never achieve their perfect ideal, so why try? So, they don’t. They are pretty sad cases because believe to ridiculous things: 1) I’m worthless, and 2) perfect exists. Together, these two erroneous beliefs feed each other. That is, I’m worthless, so I don’t deserves perfect things. You see, I did do something perfectly or I didn’t get the perfect thing, so I must be worthless. In the end, these people become lonely because they are never satisfied with themselves and others. Others get tired of trying to make the perfectionist happy, so they give up and often go elsewhere to get praise and support. And they become resentful, but over the years they have undergone so much frustration and disappointment that begin to feel resentful toward the world and toward other people. Remember, “the grass is always greener on the other side.” Well, they believe that if they didn’t get that perfect thing, then someone else did. So, resentfulness. This is not a pretty picture, but that is the unfortunate cost of holding to tightly to perfectionist’s ideas.

James Steed uses hypnosis and NLP® to install new more useful beliefs in these people and provides lots and lots of homework assignments that eventually lead perfectionist to a more comfortable and satisfying life. All I can is, “START NOW.” Make the rest of your life happier, beginning today.

WARNING: Hypnosis is not a substitute for professional medical or psychiatric care. Anyone with such problems should seek the aide of trained professionals.

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